12 eye-opening Differences between Introverts and Extroverts
By Jacob Shriar
Last accessed: 13/10/16
"Introverts are energised by spending time on their own, while extroverts are energised by spending time in the company of others."
If you're an extrovert, dealing with a seemingly shy introvert can seem frustrating - and if you're an introvert dealing with an exuberant extrovert the experience can feel pretty much the same. But the more you understand about the introvert/ extrovert personality types, the better you can become at dealing with all types of people.
While, individuals can fall anywhere on the introvert / extrovert personality scale, this simple infographic from Office Vibe breaks down the key differences between introverts and extroverted in a way that's easy to understand. According to writer Jacob Shriar, there are 12 key points of difference to take note of.
1. THEY RECHARGE DIFFERENTLY
Introverts are energised by spending time on their own, while extroverts are energised by spending time in the company of other. "Introverts tend to prefer to recharge by being alone. Extroverts tend to like social events and recharge by interacting with people and socialising," writes Shriar.
2. THEY CONNECT DIFFERENTLY
"Introverts like one-on-one, deep conversations, whereas extroverts seem to like group conversations," explains Shriar. Introverts tend to need more time than extroverts to mentally process new situations before they interact with others.
3. DIFFERENT LEVELS OF RELATIONSHIPS
"Introverts like forming deeper relationships. They like really getting to know someone, their hobbies, interests, etc. Extroverts, on the other hand, like being friends with many people but don't form as deep of a relationship," continues Shriar. Introverts also tend to have only a handful of close friends, while extroverts have a wider net of friends (some of them being superficial relationships).
4. LISTEN VS SPEAK
"Introverts listen more than they speak. They're really deep thinkers - they're not the loudest ones in the room," explains Shriar. Extroverts, on the other hand, are often the ones to dominate discussions in their personal and professional capacity.
5. THEY DEAL WITH CHANGE DIFFERENTLY
"Introverts are very comfortable with their habits and their routines," says Shriar. For this reason, they can come across as being less open to it - then need time to process upcoming changes more than extroverts.
Extroverts tend to 'go with the flow' far more easily, Because they tend to be more spontaneous, they adapt to change much easier.
6. DIFFERENT LEVELS OF FOCUS
"Introverts are deep thinkers, meaning they need to focus on what they're doing to produce good results. They like to put their headphones on and get in the zone," explains Shriar.
7. INTROVERTS ARE MORE RESERVED
"One big mistake that people make with introverts is that they're shy. It's not that they're shy, it's that they're thinkers. There's a huge difference," reveals Shriar.
"In fact, when an introvert trusts you and is willing to form a deeper relationship with you, they'll share more than you might expect. Extroverts might seem more open, but they more often than not remain on the surface level. Introverts form closer connections, so you just need to make them feel comfortable opening up and they will."
8. THEY OPEN UP DIFFERENTLY
Extroverts tend to over-share, while introverts are a great deal more selective about who they share their inner world with.
"Introverts open up to a few people, but when they do, they really open up. It's important to understand that it's not that they're not willing to open up, it's that they're very selective about who they're willing to open up to," says Shriar. "Extroverts are ready to open up, so you won't have much work to do with getting them comfortable."
9. INTROVERTS ARE REFLECTIVE
One of the biggest differences between introverts and extroverts is how they process information. "Introverts need time to reflect before making a decision. They need time to think and weigh their options," explains Shriar.
10. EXTROVERTS WANT ATTENTION
"Extroverts need attention. They thrive on it," explains Shriar.
11. INTROVERTS NEED QUIET SPACE TO WORK
"I think it's that introverts are just deeper thinkers and can get distracted easier. Extroverts might be better at tuning out the background noise," says Shriar
12. INTROVERTS NEED TO BE PROMPTED
If you're in a relationship with an introvert, the feeling of partnership can be problematic - as introverts often need to be prompt to contribute. "An introvert who looks like they probably have something to say, but are patiently waiting. There are signs that you can see that might let you know that the introvert would at least have something to add if called on," adds Shriar.
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